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JennieW
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 Posted: Wed Jun 11, 2008 1:29 pm Post subject: Falling off the wagon |
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I have seriously fallen off the wagon. I feel like no matter how hard I try I will always put back on the few pounds that I have managed to lose.
I have just succeeded in doing this again.
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wandaj
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| Posted: Fri Jun 13, 2008 4:31 am Post subject: |
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Jennie, I cannot begin to tell you how many times I have fallen off the wagon. I don't know if this will help because we are all different and what works for one person just doesn't work for everyone but I found out that you can't do it all at once. I couldn't change my entire lifestyle, eating, exercise, etc. all at once. No matter how much I wanted this weight gone fast, just when I thought I had it figured out, I gained whatever weight I had lost back.
What I finally learned (At least I think that I've learned it!) was that I needed to just change one or two things at a time and stay there until I was ready to pick another one or two things. For instance, I had to start with "fewer sweets" instead of "no sweets"; a little more exercise instead of a set amount of time every day; a smaller portion of red meat instead of red meat only once a week, etc. I've been going to TOPS for two years AND for the last year I've been going to Weight Watchers also. I think I really need TOPS for the closeness and support of a small group that I can really get to know. I need Weight Watchers for the program. Even with both of those, I find that I have a pattern of losing 5 lbs over several weeks or even months, then gaining 2 or three pounds. It has been painfully slow. But I weigh less than I did when I started and if I had not kept trying, I would weigh much more because I was gaining steadily when I started going to TOPS. When I plateau, I call it practicing maintenance!
Don't be hard on yourself about this. You are a young mom. That can be extremely stressful, even though it is also joyful, time of life. You don't have a lot of time to think about yourself and put yourself first. Be kind; let this be long range for awhile. The kids will become a bit more self sufficient and the time will come to you. In the meantime set goals that allow you to continue working on this but do not set goals that set you up for failure. Make sure you have healthy food available, in time you can worry about eating less of it.
One thing at a time until you have all the elements in place for a full press later! I'm sorry you're frustrated about this and I remember so well what it was like to want the old Wanda back. Now I'm 60 and I wish I had taken the slow and steady track when I was 25 or 30instead of trying to get it all off NOW. I guess I'm just a slow learner.
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JennieW
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| Posted: Sat Jun 28, 2008 7:34 pm Post subject: |
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I wish I had read this 2 weeks ago when you posted it. Thank you.
I know that I am better off at TOPS than without, even if I am not really losing weight. I say this because I know I would be gaining MORE if I wasn't a part of it! I figure even if it helps keep a few extra pounds off of me a year, that is better than gaining those and having even more to lose when I get some "me" time to really commit myself.
It is just frustrating. The last few weeks have been insane I have either had family in town or been on a trip every day for the last month. (Thus, my not being at meetings) And now, I am scared to go! I know I am probably 10 pounds heavier than I was a month ago! *sigh*
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